Part Two
the Seductive process
Most of us understand that certain actions
on our part will have a pleasing and seductive effect on the person
we would like to seduce. The problem is that we are generally too
self-absorbed: We think more about what we want from others than
what they could want from us. We may occasionally do something that
is seductive, but often we follow this up a with a selfish or
aggressive action (we are in a hurry to get what we want); or,
unaware of what we are doing, we show a side of ourselves that is
petty and banal, deflating any illusions or fantasies a person
might have about us. Our attempts at seduction usually do not last
long enough to create much of an effect.
You will not seduce anyone by simply depending on
your engaging personality, or by occasionally doing something noble
or alluring. Seduction is a process that occurs over time—the
longer you take and the slower you go, the deeper you will
penetrate into the mind of your victim. It is an art that requires
patience, focus, and strategic thinking. You need to always be one
step ahead of your victim, throwing dust in their eyes, casting a
spell, keeping them off balance.
The twenty-four chapters in this section will arm
you with a series of tactics that will help you get out of yourself
and into the mind of your victim, so that you can play it like an
instrument. The chapters are placed in a loose order, going from
the initial contact with your victim to the successful conclusion.
This order is based on certain timeless laws of human psychology.
Because people’s thoughts tend to revolve around their daily
concerns and insecurities, you cannot proceed with a seduction
until you slowly put their anxieties to sleep and fill their
distracted minds with thoughts of you. The opening chapters will
help you accomplish this. There is a natural tendency in
relationships for people to become so familiar with one another
that boredom and stagnation set in. Mystery is the lifeblood of
seduction and to maintain it you have to constantly surprise your
victims, stir things up, even shock them. A seduction should never
settle into a comfortable routine. The middle and later chapters
will instruct you in the art of alternating hope and despair,
pleasure and pain, until your victims weaken and succumb. In each
instance, one tactic is setting up the next one, allowing you to
push it further with something bolder and more violent. A seducer
cannot be timid or merciful.
To help you move the seduction along, the chapters
are arranged in four phases, each phase with a particular goal to
aim for: getting the victim to think of you; gaining access to
their emotions by creating moments of pleasure and confusion; going
deeper by working on their unconscious, stirring up repressed
desires; and finally, inducing physical surrender. (The phases are
clearly marked and explained with a short introduction.) By
following these phases you will work more effectively on your
victim’s mind and create the slow and hypnotic pace of a ritual. In
fact, the seductive process may be thought of as a kind of
initiation ritual, in which you are uprooting people from their
habits, giving them novel experiences, putting them through tests,
before initiating them into a new life.
It is best to read all of the chapters and gain as
much knowledge as possible. When it comes time to apply these
tactics, you will want to pick and choose which ones are
appropriate for your particular victim; sometimes only a few are
sufficient, depending on the level of resistance you meet and the
complexity of your victim’s problems. These tactics are equally
applicable to social and political seductions, minus the sexual
component in Phase Four.
At all cost, resist the temptation to hurry to the
climax of your seduction, or to improvise. You are not being
seductive but selfish. Everything in daily life is hurried and
improvised, and you need to offer something different. By taking
your time and respecting the seductive process you will not only
break down your victim’s resistance, you will make them fall in
love.
Phase One
Separation—Stirring Interest and
Desire
Your victims live in their own worlds, their
minds occupied with anxieties and daily concerns. Your goal in this
initial phase is to slowly separate them from that closed world and
fill their minds with thoughts of you. Once you have decided whom
to seduce (1: Choose the right victim), your first task is to get
your victims’ attention, to stir interest in you. For those who
might be more resistant or difficult, you should try a slower and
more insidious approach, first winning their friendship (2: Create
a false sense of security—approach indirectly); for those who are
bored and less difficult to reach, a more dramatic approach will
work, either fascinating them with a mysterious presence (3:
Send mixed signals) or seeming to be someone who is coveted and
fought over by others (4: Appear to be an object of
desire).
Once the victim is properly intrigued, you need
to transform their interest into something stronger—desire. Desire
is generally preceded by feelings of emptiness, of something
missing inside that needs fulfillment. You must deliberately
instill such feelings, make your victims aware of the adventure and
romance that are lacking in their lives (5: Create a need—stir
anxiety and discontent). If they see you as the one to fill their
emptiness, interest will blossom into desire. The desire should be
stoked by subtly planting ideas in their minds, hints of the
seductive pleasures that await them (6: Master the art of
insinuation). Mirroring your victim’s values, indulging them in
their wants and moods will charm and delight them (7: Enter their
spirit). Without realizing how it has happened, more and more of
their thoughts now revolve around you. The time has come for
something stronger. Lure them with an irresistible pleasure or
adventure (8: Create temptation) and they will follow your
lead.